“Went to have some drinks with some guy friends my ex (“Mr.X”) and I have in common, and then one of them tells me that in a dinner at Mr.X’s house, my name came up in a conversation, then he started talking about how I was not over him and how he felt more chemistry with my brother than with me. 2 months ago, We broke up on friendly terms (supposedly), and I have just interacted with him because of work stuff very shortly 3 times via text. Nevertheless, he keeps texting my brother stupid memes every day, now is dating a “tinder girl” (after he used to say that it was a useless app) and telling my friends ‘that I need to move on and get over him.’ I would very much appreciate your opinion on his behaviour.” – Susannah
@CrazyJewishMom: So, he’s in love with your brother? Maybe he’s gay! Who cares? Move on!
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Relax, mother. He’s obviously talking shit and generally trying to act like Captain Testosterone to impress his friends. I totally get why it’s annoying, but there’s nothing you can do to stop that. Give it time, and you’ll get to a place where you are actually totally indifferent. Then, no matter how much he gossips about you, it will be obvious to your mutual friends that you genuinely do not give a f#*!, you know? It is a little weird that he keeps texting your brother, though.
@CrazyJewishMom: Why weird? It’s 2017, love is love. Set them up, and move on with your bad self!
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Not sure what kind of relationship you have with your brother, but you could ask him to stop responding to you ex. And if you have to talk to this guy for work, just keep it short and professional.
@CrazyJewishMom: And learn your lesson from this, Susannah: DON’T SHIT WHERE U EAT! NEVER date a coworker; it always ends badly. And honey, sorry to call your bluff here, but you aren’t over him yet. It’s hard and it will take time, but if you still care that he’s being a hypocrite for meeting someone on tinder…please…you still care. It’s okay to not be over it yet, but my spawn is right, indifference is the best revenge.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Best of luck! Hang in there.
@CrazyJewishMom: And hey, if you can’t get over it, i’ve found that arson can be very cleansing.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Please don’t set his house on fire.