When does busy become ghosting?
“Hi guys! So I’ve been talking to and dating this guy for a month-ish and things were fine, until 2 weeks ago. He had to cancel our plans because “some things have come up that require his attention” and he said that he would be in touch in a week or so. What does this actually mean? Is he ghosting me or is he just busy and wants to handle things before we get back on track? Should I text him now that it’s been almost 2 weeks since we’ve talked to each other?” – J
@CrazyJewishMom: Those things that came up for him? THOSE THINGS ARE OTHER WOMEN’S VAGINAS!
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Yeah, I’ve definitely been ghosted before, and it sucks a lot. I totally understand the impulse to follow up with him, but in my experience it’s a waste of time.
@CrazyJewishMom: Honey, move on! He’s just a ball less wonder who is too chicken to tell you he’s moved on. Better off without him. No one wants limp-dick, coward genes in their family chromosome pool. He is probably playing pin the dick on vagina with his newest flavor of the week right now.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: I’m pretty sure that’s not a real game. But think about it J, even in the best case scenario, texting is not the right answer. In the unlikely event that he is actually dealing with a family emergency that “requires his attention” it’s not fair to ask him to devote any of that attention to fun flirty banter with you at this stage of your relationship. Plus, he’ll appreciate your patience when he is ready to talk again.
@CrazyJewishMom: Bullshit! There is NO situation where he couldn’t take two minutes to text you! Grow up…he dumped you!
@KateFriedmanSiegel: She’s right, and in the far more likely event that he’s blowing you off with that RATHER lame excuse, what’s the upside? You get a text back and invest more energy in a guy who’s trying to distance himself without sacking up and telling you bluntly he’s not interested?
@CrazyJewishMom: Yeah, what a wimp. Slash his tires. Oh! Or text him, lure him into your bedroom like a honey pot sting operation, and chop off his balls. Cowards don’t deserve balls!
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Don’t do any of that. I do agree with her previous thought though: time to get back out there. People DO what they want. There are always exceptions, but when someone starts distancing themselves, they’re usually running away. You deserve better than having to chase some idiot down “Mommy Issue Lane.” Always say no to forced emotional cardio.
@CrazyJewishMom: Also, what’s ghosting? Is that a sex thing?
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