Wedding Drama: Sibling Edition
“So, my fiancé and I are having a ceremony in Italy with a wedding reception on a different date. His brother got engaged recently with a girl neither of us can stand. After them knowing our reception day, they still decided to get married on the day we had set for the reception, causing us to change our date as well. Is it wrong of me to be incredibly upset about this? Or, because it’s only a reception is it not as big a deal? I want to stand up for myself and yell about this injustice, but I also don’t feel like that would be best. My mother passed several years ago, so I feel as though I’m dealing with this by myself because she would have talked me through this. I need advice!” – Erika
@CrazyJewishMom: Oh my god! You got married! In Italy!!! Take a step back, and look at your life. Be happy! You could be like my spawn: single, 28, and stuck with a guy who will never commit while her ovaries rot out.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Wouldn’t it be my eggs “rotting out?”
@CrazyJewishMom: Tick tock, smart ass. Erika, think about it. So, the reception date is changed! You don’t want to break up your husband’s relationship with his brother and start off with your new family on crappy footing. Let it go.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: I TOTALLY disagree. That is absolutely insane. There are 365 days in a year, and they had to pick the one day you had already chosen? I’m sorry, but that is crazy. Barring some incredible explanation (like, “my recently departed grandmother met a genie before she passed and was given a one day resurrection pass, so she could attend our wedding. BUT the day of granny-reincarnation is only redeemable on the day you chose for your ceremony,” level incredible), that is completely unacceptable.
@CrazyJewishMom: Yeah, it’s terrible, but it’s not worth getting into a pissing match with your new in laws. Unless you’re commiting sister-in-law-icide. Trust me, you’re at the beginning of a long life of family politics. Don’t start off on this note. Just remember it the next time they try to strong arm you into Thanksgiving at their place.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: I don’t know. Personally, I don’t think I would be able to stop myself. That said, I do agree with my mom about not wanting to start a big family rift. If you’re going to bring it up, I guess you should try to make a joke about it? So, it takes a little edge off? Sorry girl; that is CRAZY!