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Ask Mom & Spawn: Are We Just Friends Or Dating?

“So, I’ve been friends with this guy for a little while now. I’ve ended up at his house a lot lately, spending the night every time I end up there. We drink beer or whiskey most nights and I sleep in his bed with him. A few of these time we’ve both been naked. But, get this, we’ve never had sex, we’ve barely even touched period. We’ve showered together for gods sake. We work for the same company, different departments so we don’t see each other unless we’re looking, and that’s exactly what he does. He comes and find me while I’m at lunch, hangs out till I go back or he gets a call. I’m so confused by this entire thing. I’m used to guys being really straight forward with what they want from me, good or not so good. I don’t know what do to, should I say something? Should I let it run its course? I mean I like him but at the same time If he doesn’t want more I don’t want to ruin a good friendship. What’s your advice? Halp?” – Bre

@CrazyJewishMom:  Friendship? Friends don’t shower together.

@KateFriedmanSiegel: Yeah, unless I’ve been doing friendship VERY wrong, you’re not friends with this guy.

@CrazyJewishMom:  Something’s fishy here. Why would you be naked with eachother and not touch? Have you two kissed? Is he gay or asexual? Just stick your tongue down his throat, and see what happens.

@KateFriedmanSiegel: I think you should be careful, though. I know you said he works in a different part of the company, but even so, he’s a colleague, and things could get very awkward if it doesn’t work out.

@CrazyJewishMom:  It’s never a good idea to get your MANmeat where you get your bread and butter, but the two of you have already seen each other naked. You’ve jumped the shark. Now Jump his bones, and call it a day!

@KateFriedmanSiegel: I don’t think he’d be seeking you out in the way you described if he wasn’t into you, so I wouldn’t worry about that, BUT I still think a workplace romance can be a bad idea. That said, I also think his weird, naked friendship dance you’re doing right now isn’t sustainable. You need to make a decision about whether you want it to be an actual friendship (no naked sleepovers!), or if you like him enough to give it a try, even though there are serious professional risks.

@CrazyJewishMom:  Just grab him by the manmeat, and kiss him.

@KateFriedmanSiegel: Maybe not at work, though.


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