What do you do when the guy you love still hooks up with other girls?
“He’s enough for me. I don’t want anyone else. He wants you fuck other girls, but every time I start talking to a new guy he tells me he’s in love with me. I’m not good enough for him. But I’m good enough for me. I know my worth. That being said, we have known each other since 3rd grade, and I will be a sophomore in high school this year. I am at my wits end; I love him but I don’t know if I can go on. Any advice? He’s my best friend, and I know he loves me but he just can’t keep it in his pants. I want him to be there for me and not talk to other girls, and he says he wants that too but I don’t know if I can believe him. I’m crazy, but he’s the most amazing person in the world. Should I let him go for a while and see if he comes back? Idk what to do. Please help Jewish mom and spawn!”-Ava
@CrazyJewishMom: Ava, honey you clearly do NOT know your worth if you’re putting up with this bullshit. Listen to me very closely: BURN HIS HOUSE DOWN AND FIND A NEW SPERMINATOR. And get tested RIGHT NOW. He’s probably crawling with CRABS.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Definitely, don’t do that (the arson part; getting tested is probably a good idea though)! But I agree – dump him.
@CrazyJewishMom: And guess what? He is NOT “the most amazing person in the world.” He’s a manipulative piece of crap who doesn’t want to be exclusive with you but doesn’t want anyone else to have you.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Yeah, a “best friend” would not want to make you feel this way! You’re young, and you’re in a very dangerous place right now romantically – this is a turning point. If you stay in this kind of relationship, you’re going to get used to being treated this way and will be attracted to assholes like this who break your heart forever. Trust me, this is not a romantic pattern you want to fall into. This is not love.
@CrazyJewishMom: Honey, I know this feels all consuming right now, but you have so much manmeat ahead of you! You’re right not to believe him when he says he only wants to be with you. I always told my spawn growing up: you have to look at what people do, not what they say. Also, you are in tenth grade. Time to focus on your schoolwork and on getting into college. Your raging hormones won’t pay the rent.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Yeah, that’s some of the best advice she has ever given me. It’s very easy to say all the right things and make big romantic gestures, but ultimately people DO what they want. And it sounds like the things he’s doing are torturing you. Don’t get used to equating love with angst and torture. Yes, love can be rocky and have ups and downs, but overall, love should be the safe space in your life. The world is shitty enough. Don’t choose a shitty partner too.
@CrazyJewishMom: Actions Speak Louder than Words. Key his car, and move on.
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