“My boyfriend gets jealous and isn’t okay with me talking to this one male FRIEND of mine, so I stopped talking to the guy a while ago to make my boyfriend comfortable. Completely out of the blue the other day, this same male FRIEND messaged me on Snapchat asking about my sister, and my boyfriend saw the notification with the guy’s name. I moved to Kansas, so he is down here visiting. My boyfriend threw a fit, and then apologized. I’ve included screenshots from our conversation to give a little more detail. Mind you, this WHOLE conversation took place when we were in the mall together and when he was sitting behind me in the car. I have no idea what to do! He ALWAYS takes his anger out on me, never physically, always verbally. It’s somehow always my fault, this happens quite often. He is very aggressive, and always threatens to kill anyone who would mess with me, even if the situation was one I could handle. The answer is always violence. I just really need help figuring out what to do!!!” – Mikayla
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@CrazyJewishMom: If anyone spoke to my spawn the way this controlling little shit is talking to you, I would give all his belongings to Goodwill and then sell his social security number on the black market. Change your phone number, and let me talk to your mother.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Sigh. Mikayla, I’m not a psychiatrist, so I think you should speak to a professional about how to handle this. But my opinion? Just because he isn’t physically hurting you doesn’t mean this isn’t abuse.
@CrazyJewishMom: This guy is sick. And by the way? I almost vomited when he started texting you baby talk. That alone is a dump-able offense, but his rage is much more serious. Even THREATS of violence are never okay.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Listen, people say things they don’t mean during fights, but that doesn’t make it okay. The violent threats aside, your boyfriend told you he hates you, called you “insane” and “psychotic” (btw: calling a woman psycho to minimize her feelings and undercut her legitimacy? Groundbreaking. Insert ten million eye roll emojis.), and if I’m reading the screenshots correctly, it looks like he started texting other girls during the fight to try and make you jealous! Those are not things you can or should forget.
@CrazyJewishMom: And I don’t know what a snapchot message is, but is it like a phone message?
@CrazyJewishMom: THAT’S what set him off in a jealous rage? That’s crazy. You got a text from another person who owns a penis. So. fucking. what?? Even if you WERE sleeping with the guy who texted you, and his jealousy were based in any kind of reality, HE STILL CAN’T THREATEN TO PUT A BULLET IN SOMEONE’S HEAD.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: He certainly shouldn’t, no. Actually, the scariest part to me, is that if you read the conversation, the most violent threats he makes are later, after he’s had a chance to calm down. In the same breath where he’s groveling and begging you to love him after the fight has ended, he’s also threatening to kill someone for talking to you. The death threats came when he was calm, and that’s arguably scarier.
@CrazyJewishMom: At the worst, this relationship could escalate to physical violence. At best, you’re having sex with an immature, mean, man-child, who doesn’t fight fair or respect you. Block him on social media, go see a therapist, and get a restraining order from the police if he threatens you.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: You deserve better.
@CrazyJewishMom: Send him back to whatever sad, little micopenis-filled town he came from, and dive into the Kansas sperminators!
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