I’m the other woman, and I don’t know what to do!
“Hey ladies, I started college about two months ago, and since I got here, I’ve connected with a few friends from back home that I never actually got a chance to know when I was there. Long story short, I knew one of them had a girlfriend (he never told me, but my friends that know him have made it clear), but we hit it off straight away. I ended up sleeping with him after a night out, and I felt pretty bad about it after. Although he seems like he feels bad about it on one hand, he’s still very flirtatious and we’ve still been fooling around since. I’m starting to catch feelings, but I don’t know what to do because in the back of my mind, I’m thinking about his girlfriend. Please give me some advice!” – Amy
@CrazyJewishMom: He’s the one being a jackass, so don’t feel guilty. But consider DUMPING HIM NOW.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Yeah, it’s not great to be participating in infidelity in ANY way, but I’m a firm believer in not blaming the ‘other woman’ in these situations. There are plenty of people in relationships who have the option to cheat on their partners, but don’t. You have to remember that the cheater is in the one violating someone’s trust and is the one in the wrong. Plus, he didn’t even tell you about this directly.
@CrazyJewishMom: And make sure you get this guy tested. You don’t want his crotch crabs crawling all over your lady bits! I used to always tell my spawn, “NO STD TEST, YOU WON’T BE GETTING SEX!”
@KateFriedmanSiegel: That’s also a good idea. But to my earlier point, while it’s his responsibility to decide where he puts his penis, I just don’t see this ending well for you. At this stage of your relationship with him, the sneaking around and early relationship butterflies are flying around in your stomach like a swarm of horny sex locust. Think about it, even if he dumps this girl and decides to put his penis exclusively in you, how are you going to trust him? If this is how he started a relationship with you, what’s to stop him from cheating when the honeymoon phase of YOUR relationship ends?
@CrazyJewishMom: I agree. You are not going to end up happily ever after with this guy. Not a chance! Once a cheater always a cheater. So you had some fun, you fucked his brains out? Great! Now dump the bad boy now before you get attached. He’s not going to change.
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