What do I do about my married boyfriend?
“I work with a majority of men and have for the past 3 years. Until about a year ago there were no issues. About a year ago I developed a relationship with one of the men, however he was married. About 6 months in he and his wife separated. He told me he didn’t want a relationship and we continued to have a very casual fling. No one was aware of our fling. All of a sudden he became very angry and mean towards me and cut all contact. He ended it telling me he had a girlfriend. I found out that girlfriend is pregnant and he recently got back in contact with me and we started our fling back. I’m so conflicted. I know he isn’t good for me, but I can’t say no. He has no respect for my feelings let alone his wife or girlfriend. What should I do?” -Anonymous
@CrazyJewishMom: I’m going to assume you wrote to us because you know you need a kick in the ass and also that is exactly what I am going to give you. What should you do? Honey, you should remember you’re worth something and kick this human version of a crusty pink eye outbreak to the curb.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Well, that’s a vile description.
@CrazyJewishMom: I think it captures it.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Certainly. I feel like I keep repeating myself here, but once again, your situation shows exactly why it’s never a good idea to get involved with a married man. 99% of the time, the married man is a liar and never leaves his wife. And look at your situation! The 1% where the guy actually leaves his wife…he’s still a dirty, emotionally abusive liar who is toying with your emotions and betraying his new pregnant partner all over again.
@CrazyJewishMom: You have to cut this rotting diaper pail of a human off for good. You can’t say no? Listen to me. We all have fun things we’d like to do that we should also never EVER do. For example, HARD DRUGS! Super fun! Do I do them? No, because I don’t want to die! You need to kick your douchebag habit.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: I’ll quote my mother from a recent column: “Date good men. They’re hard to find, but if they’re sleeping with you while they’re married, they’re not one of the good ones.”
@CrazyJewishMom: And also? He’s your co-worker. In the future don’t get your meat where you get your bread and butter.
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