EJ’s and her ex broke up 2 years ago … but they kept seeing each other anyways while he had another girlfriend!
“My ex and I broke up about 2 years ago but never stopped seeing each other. Soon after we broke up he started seeing an ex. He claims he wanted to be with me but she was an obligation and it was all very complicated but since I loved him I kept seeing him. Fast forward to now, they moved in and got engaged and plan to marry next year. And I am still seeing him. I plan to end things the next time we see eachother since I know how wrong this has been and how it’s just as equally my fault, but I’m torn as to whether I should tell his fiancé that he’s been cheating the whole time. I don’t know if it will do her any good or just make me feel less guilty. Should I say anything, or just drop it?” -EJ
@CrazyJewishMom: The NEXT time you see him? EJ! You should lace up your running shoes, run as far away from this glorified pair of testicles on legs as you can, and never look back.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Yeah, why on earth would you need to see this asshole again? Seems like something that could be handled over the phone or via text, based on the total lack of respect he’s shown you over the course of your relationship! You definitely don’t owe him a face to face explanation.
@CrazyJewishMom: And can we all stop believing men when they tell us they are fucking other women for any other reason than that they want to put their penis inside them? Obligation? EJ! It’s not complicated. He’s not obligated to sleep with two women at the same time, he’s just a pig.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: I agree with all of that, but to your question, I think you should definitely tell the fiance. She may or may not listen to you, but I think she deserves a head’s up before she legally commits to this jackass.
@CrazyJewishMom: Definitely tell the fiancée. But don’t fantasize that they will break up, and he will come running back to you. You will both be happier without him. Who knows? Maybe you’ll both wake up and smell the fuckboy flavored coffee, realize he’s a complete bastard, and join forces to burn down his house!
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Nope! Bad idea. And I just want to discuss something else you said – this is not equally your fault. Don’t get me wrong, it was messed up for you to date someone while they were seeing someone else. However, it is ultimately the responsibility of the person in the relationship to be faithful.
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