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Ask Mom & Spawn: Help! My Fiancé Is Cheating With His Best Friend’s Fiancé

Anonymous wrote in because she recently got back together with her fiancé…just to find out he slept with his best friend’s fiancé during their break. Now she thinks he’s cheating on her with this woman. What should she do?

“My fiancé and I broke up back at the end of November. We were very close with another couple – his best friend and his friend’s fiancé. When we broke up, they decided to only remain friends with my ex, as they said I hurt him by leaving (for reasons that if I listed you’d be shocked I ever came back). Anyway, we got back together less than 2 months later, and I asked him if he had been with anyone while we were apart – I had not. He said only once; it was ‘just a blow-job.’ I inquired further, and he gave a very detailed description of the event, saying it was with his best friend’s fiancé, while he helped her paint her new bathroom, and her fiancé was out of town. That she went down on him and used her pink vibrator on herself while she did. About 2 hours later, I was feeling very upset and told him he needed to tell his friend or I would. He began insisting he made the whole thing up to make me jealous. Anytime I have brought it up, he gets extremely irate and yells at me that it never happened. He is in their wedding next month, and we recently ran into her. He has purposely avoided having the four of us rekindle our relationship. Her man was again out of town, and she was all over him when we saw her. She ignored me completely. Later, I found out she had been calling and texting him to ditch me and stay over at her place. She snapchats him in the middle of the night to say he missed out. He insists they are just close friends and I am insecure. Am I crazy or are they cheating?” – Anonymous

@CrazyJewishMom: Yes. You are crazy…for believing a single word this cheating sack of puke encrusted horse shit says.

@KateFriedmanSiegel: Yeah, it doesn’t sound like he is being honest with you.

@CrazyJewishMom: Honest?? This subhuman shitstain is a pathological liar. Enough. This is what you do. You seduce him. You lead him into the bedroom and then surprise! Cut off his penis. Ooh, and you could mail it to the other woman! If you seduce him at your apartment, you can put down some plastic sheeting first, so you don’t get blood all over your bedding.

@KateFriedmanSiegel: Right, because soiled bedding is the biggest concern with that idea.

@CrazyJewishMom: I’m a homemaker.

@KateFriedmanSiegel: Okay, so there’s a lot to unpack here. First, it seems pretty clear to me that he’s not telling you the truth about what happened, in light of the evidence you found on his phone. For argument’s sake though, let’s pretend he is telling you the truth. Survey says….he’s still a nightmare! If he’s being honest with you now, that just means he’s a manipulative sociopath who is willing to make up a painful lie about being unfaithful, just to mess with your emotions. And then, when you are understandably confused by the mixed messaging, his response is rage. And in the (let’s be honest, TRUE) version of events, this guy banged his best friend’s fiancé, lied to cover it up, and is now gaslighting you.

@CrazyJewishMom: Cut. It. Off.

@KateFriedmanSiegel: I think the biggest takeaway for me, is that it doesn’t really matter whether or not he is cheating on you. Yes, that part sucks, but the best case scenario paints an extremely emotionally abusive, disrespectful picture. You honestly deserve to be treated better, and this man isn’t showing you an ounce of respect.

@CrazyJewishMom: Don’t marry him. Get out now, because this won’t stop once you get married.

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