In this week’s #WhatTheHellHappened, we caught up with “Anonymous” who wrote to @AskMomAndSpawn because she got sucked back into an affair with her married coworker and didn’t know what to do. Did we mention said coworker had another pregnant girlfriend too? Naturally, @CrazyJewishMom had some FEELINGS about this, “crusty pink eye outbreak” of a situation, and gave “Anonymous” a solid kick in the rear.
So, #WhatTheHellHappened? Here’s a refresher on “Anonymous’s” original story, and an update from her below!
“I work with a majority of men and have for the past 3 years. Until about a year ago there were no issues. About a year ago I developed a relationship with one of the men. However, he was married. About 6 months in, he and his wife separated. He told me he didn’t want a relationship and we continued to have a very casual fling. No one was aware of our fling. All of a sudden he became very angry and mean towards me and cut all contact. He ended it telling me he had a girlfriend. I found out that girlfriend is pregnant and he recently got back in contact with me and we started our fling back. I’m so conflicted. I know he isn’t good for me, but I can’t say no. He has no respect for my feelings let alone his wife or girlfriend. What should I do?” -Anonymous
So, #WhatTheHellHappened to her?
“I cut contact with him and deleted his number from my phone and all of his social media accounts. He actually reached back out to me to try to fall back into our pattern. I asked about the status of the other girl and he claimed that he wasn’t close with her, as he didn’t think it was his baby based on timing and only being with her once. I’m proud of myself, since I didn’t believe a word of what he was saying. We haven’t spoken to each other with the exception of one work-related situation. He is fully blocked on my phone. I do feel a little bad for his pregnant girlfriend though, because she has no clue about things he said about her when he reached out to me, and my understanding from mutual friends is she honestly thinks he’s been faithful to her and is wild about her, when in reality he’s told others he’s with her out of obligation. I’m happy to report I’m so much happier being single than I ever was with him. Thanks y’all for the dose of reality. It was much needed!”
@CrazyJewishMom: This is exactly the right thing to do! I’m so happy you kicked this soft-boiled diaper pail of a human to the curb! And don’t you believe a word he says ever again…you keep him blocked and out of your life.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Seriously, I’m very glad to hear about how well you’re doing. This guy was just toying with your emotions and making you miserable. And now that you’re not wrapped up in this asshole’s lies, you might meet someone who doesn’t treat you like complete crap…if a relationship is something you ultimately decide you want.
@CrazyJewishMom: Learn from this. Honesty is the most important thing in the world. And by the way, you could let the pregnant girlfriend know what a piece of shit he is, and then maybe burn down his house together.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Yeah (not to the arson part), she is going to find out what kind of person he is eventually, and it might be helpful for her to realize sooner rather than later. Totally your call, and it’s completely understandable if you just want nothing more to do with the situation, but it can’t hurt to tell her if you’re really feeling guilty about her obliviousness to his character.
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