This week, Hailey wrote in because she found out that her boyfriend has been cheating on her with someone else. The other girl reached out to her, and now she doesn’t know if she should tell her the truth or lie to save her boyfriend’s ass. What should she do?
“I dated a guy for a little over a year. He was seriously hot. A body that puts Channing Tatum’s to shame. Not gonna lie the shallow part of me loved that he was interested in me. I don’t think that much of myself, sorry. I figured he was a player but ate up everything he said out of giddy girly stupidity. Until his girlfriend called to ask how I knew him…apparently, she had read our texts and pleaded with me to tell her if he was cheating on her. She was incredibly sweet and didn’t come at me with the usual territorial bitchiness. So, I felt I owed her the truth, and I’m pretty sure I’d been dating him longer. Before I could, the texts from him came barreling in, and he asked me to say that we’re friends and nothing more. Of course at this point I’m DONE!!! And really not sure if I should involve myself further or follow girl code and be honest with her. I’m really hurt and taking time to figure out what’s right for me, while also feeling guilty for leaving her to figure it out on her own.” – Hailey
@CrazyJewishMom: This is what you do. You and the other girl this f*ckboy incarnate was sleeping with team up, burn down his house and then frame him for murder.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: While I’m so sorry that you’re going through this…you definitely don’t do any of the things my mother suggested.
@CrazyJewishMom: I’ll bring the matches.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Nope. Hailey, this is just so awful, and I hate that you are in any way blaming yourself for what he did. I don’t care if he’s a fucking Hemsworth brother, you should never, ever feel stupid for expecting your partner to keep his penis out of another woman’s vagina. If someone commits to a relationship, the way they look has absolutely no bearing on whether or not they should violate that commitment. If someone wants to sleep around, that’s fine, just don’t lie to and hurt people in the process!
@CrazyJewishMom: I take it back. I think you slice off his steroid shrunken excuse for a penis, grind it up in a nutribullet with some fancy feast, and feed it to a stray pussy cat.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: I’m honestly baffled by this asshole’s nerve. You two dated for a year, and he has the audacity to call you and try to convince you to cover for him with his other girlfriend? This guy is a literal piece of shit, and you owe him nothing, so if that’s part of why you are conflicted about telling the other woman about his actions…TELL HER. On the other hand, I completely understand how painful this probably is for you and get not wanting to become more involved than you already are. I totally respect whatever decision you make about telling the other girl, but it definitely would be a kind thing for you to do. I’m sure you wish someone would have warned you, and you have the power to do that for someone else now. To be totally clear though, I think either decision is fine, and I can understand wanting to just step away from the situation and lick your wounds. I’m really sorry you’re hurting.
@CrazyJewishMom: Listen, better now than five years and two kids later. And about the other girlfriend? Tell her. Fuck this guy. It doesn’t have to be a whole dramatic thing that you get yourself into. Just tell her the truth, and block this fuckboy from every part of your life. No more drama, and you can walk away feeling totally confident that you did the right thing. But when you tell her, do it over the phone. Not by text. Cause Time’s Up, Bros. No more lies.
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