For this week’s #WhatTheHellHappened, we caught up with a young anonymous woman, who was really excited to be the MOH at her sister’s wedding. There was just one problem: a friend of her family was being SUPER racist towards her Muslim boyfriend, and even requested that he be uninvited! My mom and I pretty much agreed on how messed up this was (although I did and do not condone murdering anyone). So, #WhatTheHellHappened?
Here’s a refresher on “Anonymous’” original story, and an update from her below!
“Hi mom and spawn! I have an interesting issue for you. My sister is getting married in a month, I am of course the MOH! Recently, we had some drama with a long-time friend of the family when he realized my boyfriend was raised Muslim. He is refusing to attend the wedding unless my boyfriend is uninvited. I am extremely upset at the family friend and I refuse to speak or be in the same room as him. Now, my sister thinks uninviting my boyfriend aka my date is the best way to prevent drama. I am hurt and angry at my family for bending to the will of a horrible human being!!! My boyfriend and I have been together for three years, he lives a few states over, and he has already bought his plane ticket. I haven’t told him what’s going on; I don’t have the heart to hurt him like that. It’s her wedding but I can barely look at her without wanting to shake sense into her. What do I do?” – Anonymous
Hello Mom and Kate!
Thanks for following up, I’m doing well and we survived the wedding (there was lots of champagne!!).
Unfortunately my family and I had some arguments over this issue, they very much preferred to sweep it under the rug; I refused. I told them that my bf would be attending and to tell the racist he isn’t allowed near me or him. That “friend” is aware of my feelings towards him and hasn’t made any effort in apologizing which is frustrating.
After all of this drama my boyfriend ended up getting the flu 2 days before the wedding and stayed home. It sucked he wasn’t able to come but I’m glad it was due to this rather than some racist’s bullshit.
All of the comments (well most of them…lol) made me smile and some even hit the nail on the head. I am most definitely the black sheep in the family and it is quite apparent how my mother treats me compared to my sister. The 3 of us have a challenged relationship and although it’s gotten easier as I have gotten older it’s still difficult sometimes.I’m 31, as far as I’m concerned they can either chose to support me or throw snide comments but either way I’m not going to back down from my beliefs. I’m always butting heads with them, I’m a crazy liberal girl and my family leans more red.
I haven’t told my boyfriend about this, and I have no plans to. He is already extremely sensitive to the racism in America (he was raised in the UK) and I have no desire to add more discomfort on top of it. Ignorance in some situations is the best protection for someone’s heart.
We are doing well, he’s “home” with me for a visit, I’m a happy girl!
@CrazyJewishMom: You’re right not to tell him. You’d just hurt him and nothing good would come from it.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: I tend to agree. It’s mature of you to guard his feelings, and I’m so sorry your family is putting you in that position. Hang in there.
@CrazyJewishMom: I still think we should kill the racist!
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