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#WhatTheHellHappened: To The Girl Who Slept With Her Crush’s Best Friend

In this week’s #WhatTheHellHappened, we caught up with Or. She wrote us because she was super into a guy, but realized she had slept with his best friend a year before! Surprise, surprise…Or’s new crush started ghosting her, and she wasn’t sure what to do. My #CrazyJewishMom and I VERY MUCH disagreed on this one. I thought it was a lost cause, but my mom told Or to go for it!

So, #WhatTheHellHappened? Here’s a refresher on “Or’s’” original story, and an update from her below!

“Okay, so my very jewish mother asked me to signed up for a Jswipe account, because she “should be a grandma by now.” Anyway, I met this kid there, and Jswipe even boosted our profiles to each other, because they thought we were a perfect match. We started talking and realized we had a lot in common, including our taste in people. Turns out, I slept with his roommate last year. Even worse? Both the roommate and my new crush picked me up from my apartment on the way to theirs that night. He was even in the apartment while his roommate and I had fun. Anyway, now he is ghosting me. I sent a “hi” to see how his week was going and got no answer. What should I do? I am very attracted and I felt he could be the one I would date, but the fact that I slept with his roommate and very close friend (MORE THAN A YEAR AGO) makes things awkward.” – Or

So, #WhatTheHellHappened to her?

“Hi Kate and Crazy Jewish Mom,

I decided to text the boy and see if we could talk, I felt that there was a connection there. What’s the best that could happen? He finds out about me and his roommate and we laugh it out and date. We could even get married and have cute little mentches!

The conversation didn’t last long, it was a “hey how are you” kind of thing. He told me he was moving back home so I knew there was no chance for us to be together.

Three weeks later he posted a profile picture with his new girlfriend. She returned from college and they were friends back in high school, they reconnected and now they have been together for a few months.

I knew it was not going to work. Between our locations and the small fact that i slept with his roommate our relationship didn’t stand a chance. At least I tried and put myself out there!” -Or

@CrazyJewishMom: Well, at least you know, and you’ll never wonder what could’ve been with this slab of manmeat!

@KateFriedmanSiegel: “Slab of manmeat” is such a vile metaphor.

@CrazyJewishMom: It’s fabulous.

@KateFriedmanSiegel: Anyway, I’m sorry it didn’t work out with the guy, but I suppose it’s nice to know that it probably wasn’t about the fact that you hooked up with his friend! Wish you all the best!

@CrazyJewishMom: Get back out there on the sperminator hunt!

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