For this week’s follow up, we caught up with Sydney who wrote us, because her ex wanted to stay friends, but she was still in love with him. My mom had some subpar ideas (arson) about how to handle the situation, but we both ultimately agreed that Sydney should, as my mother so delicately put it, “move on, find your vajajay a new playmate, and tell this guy to get a life.”
So, #WhatTheHellHappened? Here’s a refresher on “Sydney’s’” original story, and an update from her below!
“Hi! I just broke up with someone who I once considered the love of my life. We decided to part mutually, but it’s been really tough to handle because he still wants to be my friend. I still love him, and the feelings are still there but we just aren’t right for each other. I know in the long run he and I will be better for it, but right now it’s still fresh and still hurts. I don’t think I can have him in my life right now. How do I say this to someone whose feelings I care about and who I (to a larger degree than I’d like to admit) am still in love with?”- Sydney
So, #WhatTheHellHappened to her?
Boy do I have a Nicholas Sparks barf worthy lovey dovey story for you…
So I took your advice/your mom’s advice (and my mom’s advice) and I decided it would be too hard to be friends with my ex because getting over him and still seeing him would just be too painful. I wrote him a letter asking him to respect my wishes of cutting all ties and that was that. He respected my needs, did not contact me, and I figured that was the last time I’d probably speak to him. Flash forward to one night 8 months after we broke up when I was walking to my car after going to get drinks with a few friends and I look up and see him standing at a food truck getting a bagel. Enough time had passed that I felt I could at least say hi, but then we hugged and it was one of those hugs that just makes you feel loved and complete. He pulled back and looked me in the eye saying “Do you still feel it?” I nodded yes, and the rest is history. I told you this was Nicholas Sparks worthy.
When people say “if it’s meant to be it will happen,” I know now that is true. Both him and I grew as people individually so much over our time apart that we were able to come back together after what, at the time, felt like a definite break up. Long story short, after reuniting we’ve rekindled our relationship and I’m happier than I’ve ever been. We also just completed our first month living together in a joint lease so we’ve been making some big moves!
Thanks to you and your mom for your advice. I really did help me when I needed it!
@CrazyJewishMom: Where’s the ring?
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Oh, come on! Sydney, that is an AMAZING story! I’m so happy for you! It sounds like you both handled all of this with a lot of maturity and mutual respect, and it’s wonderful that you found each other again.
@CrazyJewishMom: I’m glad it worked out, it’s very sweet. Now, invite me to the wedding!
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