For this week’s #WhatTheHellHappened, we caught up with Anne, who originally wrote us because she cheated on the love of her life. Well, she slept with someone very early on while things were still ambiguous and casual with her boyfriend. So, unsurprisingly, we had some OPINIONS. Also unsurprisingly, my mom and I did not agree about what Anne should do. After a quick feminist rant, I was conflicted, slightly leaning toward Anne telling him. Meanwhile, my mom advised, “take it to your grave! All telling him will do is make him feel like shit and ruin your life.”
So, #WhatTheHellHappened? Here’s a refresher on “Anne’s’” original story, and an update from her below!
“Hello you two! I am dealing with a crooked conscience here. 6 months into my relationship with my boyfriend, when things were casual between us, I had a one-night stand on a trip abroad. I didn’t think much about it then, because we had just started and I didn’t even know if I loved him. Now, two years later, the love grew, and I know for sure I’m with the love of my life and the man I will spend the rest of my life with. Now I feel really bad about cheating on him. He’s always had trust issues because of an evil ex, and I’ve felt worse since he opened up to me about that. I’m sure he won’t ever be able to trust me the way he did before. Should I just tell him and clear my conscience or live with it as some sort of punishment?” -Anne
So, #WhatTheHellHappened to her?
“Hello Mom and Spawn! The follow up goes like this: I did end up confessing in a very candid way. We were drunk together and were having a nice talk about what the future holds for us. And I couldn’t keep it in anymore. I told him about that one time I messed up and cheated on him when things with him were only casual. And he took it surprisingly well…until he dropped the bomb that he did too, but only very recently and very frequently, when we were actually serious. So to conclude the story, my then boyfriend with trust issues is now my ex with loyalty and commitment issues. And I am having the time of my life being single after so long. Best regards!” – Anne
@CrazyJewishMom: I’m glad you kicked him to the curb, but I hope you also kicked that lying, human dumpster-fire right in the balls.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Wow. I did not expect that outcome. I guess it’s good that you told him, because who knows if he would have confessed otherwise! Also, it’s crazy that he considered what you did and what he did/ was doing as equivalent. Hooking up with someone else early on when you haven’t really defined parameters is not the same thing as cheating frequently and repeatedly on a long-term partner. I’m so sorry that happened, but it sounds like you’re doing well and are happy, so good for you girl!
@CrazyJewishMom: You should set a poisonous snake free in his apartment.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: No. No. Don’t do that.
@CrazyJewishMom: Call me if you want me to connect you with my snake guy.
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