For this week’s #WhatTheHellHappened, we caught up with Jackie, who had been with her boyfriend for over EIGHT. YEARS. They supported each other through a lot, including cancer, and Jackie had been sure she wanted to marry the guy for at least three years! Meanwhile, her boyfriend was not taking her frustration seriously, and he was even making insensitive jokes about their relationship to friends! My mom thought it was time for Jackie to, “move the hell out!” because her boyfriend was getting “all the benefits of being in a loving, committed relationship, but he’s too chicken shit to make a commitment.” While I did agree that eight years is a long time, I thought she might try having a more serious conversation with her partner before taking the drastic step of moving out.
So, #WhatTheHellHappened? Here’s a refresher on Jackie’s original story, and an update from her below!
“Hi Spawn and Mother! I need help; my boyfriend and I have been together for over eight years, lived together for one and have been talking about marriage for three. I’ve told him how important it is to me, but he just doesn’t seem to hear me or care. He even jokes about it like he’s going to propose, telling his friend, “I hope she says yes,” and then he apologizes for the mean joke later on. When I bring it up, he says he’s thinking about it or he knows he wants to, but it’s been three years. Do I continue to wait and accept that I’m maybe not marriage material, or do I move on? I can’t imagine my life without him; he’s been with me through cancer, hell and back. Having cancer confirmed for me that I want to start our life together, but apparently he doesn’t feel the same way. I’m so confused, what do I do?!” – Jackie
So, #WhatTheHellHappened to her?
“So, I spoke with the boyfriend again after writing into your column about expectations for our relationship and it went well. Then, me and the boyfriend recently went on vacation together and we’re now engaged! We both still have a lot we want to work on before a wedding happens so we’ll definitely be having a long engagement but we’re both very, very happy! Thank you for your advice! Now, to spend the rest of my days with the love of my life!” – Jackie
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Oh, that’s wonderful!!! I’m so glad to hear that it worked out! You see, mom? You don’t always have to do the most dramatic thing to get results!
@CrazyJewishMom: Listen, I’m glad he stepped up, but trust me…this happy ending with just more talk is the exception…not the rule.
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