Laura wrote in because she thought she was going to start a family with her husband … who then told her he cheated, never wanted kids, and it can’t be fixed. He also keeps going out on sexcapades with his other woman. What should she do?
“I’ve been with my husband for 8 years, married for 4 of them. We have a great relationship, built our house together, and planned on starting a family soon. However, our sex life was lacking recently. Two months ago, he shocked me by telling me he cheated on me with an old friend (who is also married and came to our wedding..!!) And threw in that he never wanted to have kids. We have always talked about how we can’t understand why people cheat, so I feel like this came out of left field. He immediately said this wasn’t fixable. He has barely been home, we’ve barely talked, and he continues to be with this other woman (even moving in with her). I have no idea what to do, but I still want my best friend back. How can I put an end to their sexcapades?” -Laura
@CrazyJewishMom: Oh honey, I’m so sorry. But as the great Maya Angelou once said “when people show you who they are, believe them.”
@KateFriedmanSiegel: And as my mother once said, “key the bastard’s car.” Sorry, don’t actually do that, but man this asshole makes it tempting. I really do agree with what I think my mom is getting at. As painful as this is for you right now, do you really even want him back? He cheated on you. Scratch that, he is having an ongoing affair, has moved in with his lover, and gave up on your marriage almost immediately after falling dick first into another woman. I’m really sorry this is happening to you Laura, but I think simply “putting an end to their sexcapades” is the least of your worries. Even if he someday decides that he’s bored with his new fling and wants to return to you, how could you trust him?
@CrazyJewishMom: Listen to me, you’re lucky this happened before you started having kids with the guy.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Which apparently he lied to you about ever wanting in the first place!
@CrazyJewishMom: Let him and the other cheater go live happily ever after until one of them inevitably cheats, and YOU move on with your life. I’m sure it feels awful and hopeless right now, but you can still build the family you want. This walking STD culture isn’t worthy of your love. Oh, and by the way? You keep that house. And get a great lawyer
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