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#WhatTheHellHappened: To the Woman Who Had to Deal with Her Fiancé’s Dramatic Soap Opera Ex

For this week’s #WhatTheHellHappened, we caught up with “Anonymous” who originally wrote us because her fiancé’s semi-famous ex-wife would NOT leave him alone. Seriously, the woman started texting her ex-husband nasty messages when as soon as she found out about the engagement. Anonymous’s  future husband was handling it very well, but “Anonymous” was furious and wanted to know what she thought we should do. In a shocking turn of events, my mother and I agreed (after the part where my mom suggested sending the ex wife a severed cow’s tongue. I just want to be clear about the fact that I was not supportive of that idea.)! We both thought she should take the high road and ignore it, because giving the ex an angry fight would just offer her exactly what she wanted.

So, #WhatTheHellHappened? Here’s a refresher on Anonymous’ original story, and an update from her below!

“I’m 6 months away from my wedding, and my fiancé’s ex-wife just won’t leave him/ us alone – we hadn’t heard from her in months and he has her blocked on his android phone, but the other week she managed to iMessage his iPad (we hadn’t thought to block it), saying “Please don’t marry her.” My fiancé told me about the message, because he found it funny, but I’m absolutely fuming! I feel so angry that she has just no respect for our relationship. A little history here – he was married to her for a year before she broke up with him while on holiday abroad with his parents at Christmas. Turned out, she’d been having an affair with a man half her age. It may also be worth noting that literally the day after their wedding she moved to the other end of the country to start a new job (she’s a minor soap opera actress). Anyway, 5 months after the break up he, met me, and we’ve been together for 3 years now. She left us alone for the first 4 months of our relationship, until her romance with the ‘boy toy’ ended. Since then, she’s been a nightmare. Somehow, my fiancé got her to sign the divorce papers which came through in August last year and we were finally free to get engaged – which again, drew angry messages from her to my fiancé. It’s like she thinks our relationship is just there to scorn her (he blocked her after that round of messages). My fiancé is pretty un-bothered by it – he looks at it like, it’s over, there’s nothing she can do to us and we’re both happy and looking forward to our wedding. But I’m just so angry, and I’m really worried that she’ll never leave us alone, what can I do?” – Anonymous

So, #WhatTheHellHappened to her?

“Well I certainly have an interesting update for you! After the crazy ex’s “don’t marry her” message I told you about we haven’t heard from her. Well now we know why, she started seeing someone new, and after only 3 months together they got engaged 2 days ago!  Either that woman loooves getting married (this will be number 3 for her) or seriously loves getting divorced! lol. My fiancé’s reaction was he laughed and then said “great, now she’ll leave us alone. She can be another ex’s problem now!” And I couldn’t agree more with him!

We’re 3 month away from our wedding and just so excited for it:)

Lots of love to both you and your Mom! And thank you for your great advice!”

@CrazyJewishMom:  Fantastic! Exactly, let her be someone else’s problem and enjoy your future.

@KateFriedmanSiegel: I’m so glad she stopped bothering you, and I agree! Go have an amazing wedding and a wonderful life!!

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