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#WhatTheHellHappened: To the Woman Whose Fiancé Cheated With His Best Friend’s Fiancé

In this week’s #WhatTheHellHappened, we caught up with “Anonymous,” who originally wrote us, because she found out her fiancé hooked up with with his best friend’s fiancé while they were on a break. Since finding out, “Anonymous” felt obligated to tell her fiance’s friend, who had no idea he’d been cheated on! (Complicated much?!) Her fiancé was NOT excited about that idea, and he was also was keeping in (inappropriate) contact with the woman, and “Anonymous” wasn’t sure what to do! My mom had this idea:This is what you do. You seduce him. You lead him into the bedroom and then surprise! Cut off his penis. Ooh, and you could mail it to the other woman!” I disagreed on the dick amputation front, but agreed with the overall sentiment that this woman’s fiancé was not worthy of her.

So, #WhatTheHellHappened? Here’s a refresher on Anonymous’ original story, and an update from her below!

“My fiancé and I broke up back at the end of November. We were very close with another couple – his best friend and his friend’s fiancé. When we broke up, they decided to only remain friends with my ex, as they said I hurt him by leaving (for reasons that if I listed you’d be shocked I ever came back). Anyway, we got back together less than 2 months later, and I asked him if he had been with anyone while we were apart – I had not. He said only once; it was ‘just a blow-job.’ I inquired further, and he gave a very detailed description of the event, saying it was with his best friend’s fiancé, while he helped her paint her new bathroom, and her fiancé was out of town. That she went down on him and used her pink vibrator on herself while she did. About 2 hours later, I was feeling very upset and told him he needed to tell his friend or I would. He began insisting he made the whole thing up to make me jealous. Anytime I have brought it up, he gets extremely irate and yells at me that it never happened. He is in their wedding next month, and we recently ran into her. He has purposely avoided having the four of us rekindle our relationship. Her man was again out of town, and she was all over him when we saw her. She ignored me completely. Later, I found out she had been calling and texting him to ditch me and stay over at her place. She snapchats him in the middle of the night to say he missed out. He insists they are just close friends and I am insecure. Am I crazy or are they cheating?” – Anonymous

So, #WhatTheHellHappened to her?

“We have a child together, and I just wanted things to work out so badly that I think I’ve been lying to myself. I did inform his friend and now he believes that I am crazy! If he did lie about the story he told, he certainly didn’t tell them he made a story up, giving me reason to be suspicious (aside from her trying to get my fiancé to come over every time her man leaves town). His friend is convinced nothing went on and that I made it up! As much as I want to believe he is telling the truth, I can’t understand why someone would lie about that. Thank you for your advice, it’s clear that he and his friends do not respect our relationship or our family.”


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