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#WhatTheHellHappened: to EJ, Whose Boyfriend Got Engaged to Another Woman

Follow up with EJ, who found out her ex boyfriend (who she was still seeing) got engaged to another woman!

For this week’s #WhatTheHellHappened, we caught up with EJ, who originally wrote us, because she broke up with her ex boyfriend, but then kept seeing him for the next two years…while he started dating another woman. EJ had just found out that her ex and the new girlfriend got engaged and decided enough was enough – she was ready to end the relationship. She wasn’t sure whether or not she should tell his fiance that he had been cheating on her for their entire relationship, so she asked us for advice! My mom had some THOUGHTS: “Can we all stop believing men when they tell us they are fucking other women for any other reason than that they want to put their penis inside them? Obligation? EJ! It’s not complicated. He’s not obligated to sleep with two women at the same time, he’s just a pig.” Can’t say I disagree with her there! Shockingly my mom and I also agreed that EJ should probably tell the fiance, but we disagreed that she and the fiance should, “both wake and smell the fuckboy flavored coffee, realize he’s a complete bastard, and join forces to burn down his house!”

So, #WhatTheHellHappened? Here’s a refresher on EJ’s original story, and an update from her below!

“My ex and I broke up about 2 years ago but never stopped seeing each other. Soon after we broke up he started seeing an ex. He claims he wanted to be with me but she was an obligation and it was all very complicated but since I loved him I kept seeing him. Fast forward to now, they moved in and got engaged and plan to marry next year. And I am still seeing him. I plan to end things the next time we see each other since I know how wrong this has been and how it’s just as equally my fault, but I’m torn as to whether I should tell his fiance that he’s been cheating the whole time. I don’t know if it will do her any good or just make me feel less guilty. Should I say anything, or just drop it?” -EJ

So, #WhatTheHellHappened to her?

“Just a brief update. It took me a bit to move on but I have finally cut him out of my life for good. He called me drunk the night before his wedding (and I had no idea his wedding was the next day) asking me to tell him to call the wedding off saying that I’m the one for him etc and he wouldn’t stop calling, texting and FaceTiming all night so the next day when I saw his wedding photos, I blocked him on everything, including his number. Although I never told his fiance, I know it wouldn’t have made a difference, pathological liars can talk their way out of anything. I just hope he really does change his ways for her sake. Thanks again for your advice, it definitely put me on the right track to moving on.” – EJ

@KateFriedmanSiegel: WOW. That is an astoundingly messed up thing to do – the night before his wedding! I see your point about pathological liars, and I’m just glad to hear that you are out of such that toxic mess of a situation.

@CrazyJewishMom: I still say burn his house down.

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