In this week’s #WhatTheHellHappened, we found out what happened to Cara, the ex-Law School student who was feeling completely lost and depressed after quitting law school. She originally wrote in because she wanted advice on how to get her confidence back and pursue a new dream. First, we told her that her world isn’t falling apart (but the real world … that’s a different story). Second, we told her to intern and get experience in different careers of interest to figure out what exactly she wants.
So, #WhatTheHellHappened? Here’s a refresher on Cara’s original story, and an update from her below!
“I’m writing you, because I’m currently in my bed crying instead of sitting at my desk studying for exams. The reason why requires a little background information. I always knew I wanted to go to law school, so after high school I went abroad for two years, because I needed some time away from home and new experiences, but law school was always my goal. Once I got accepted at my number one choice, I was the happiest person, everything worked out as planned. Until it didn’t. After almost two years, I had to admit to myself that it was nothing like I thought it would be, and that I’m not the kind of person one must be to be good in law school (competitive, not friendly etc.). I developed trust issues because of fake friends and anxiety. So I quit, because my mental health was more important to me. I’m still in University doing something law related in combination with business and economics which I find very interesting, but at the same time, I feel so lost and as if I have no idea what I’m doing with myself, because it’s like I lost my life goal. How do I get my confidence back so that I can find a new goal that I’m passionate about and willing to work for? I apologize for any grammar or spelling mistakes, English is not my native language. Thank you so much and greetings from Germany” – Cara
So, #WhatTheHellHappened to her?
“I’m doing a lot better now. I haven’t cried in a while and feel a lot more happy overall. When you guys told me that it was completely normal to feel the way I did, I found the courage to talk to my Mom and boyfriend about how I felt, and they were both very supportive and understanding, and that took a lot of pressure off me, because what I worried about the most was disappointing them and not meeting everyone’s expectations.
I would actually recommend to anyone who might have similar worries, to not keep it to yourself and talk to someone! It makes everything seem less like a dead-end situation and you won’t feel as alone anymore which makes it a lot easier to deal with. At least that’s what helped me.
I still haven’t figured out what kind of job I want to do after I graduate, but it doesn’t worry me as much anymore. I applied for a few different summer internships, so I hope that will work out and I’m pretty sure it’s gonna help me feel more prepared for whatever I want to do in the future.” – Cara
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Oh how wonderful! I’m so happy to hear that you were able to share your concerns with your family and that they were understanding! Also, really great to hear how much better you are doing, and yeah! Don’t stress! You’re going to be just fine; it takes time to figure out what you want to do and even then, life is long and often takes you on paths you never would have imagined! I certainly never really imagined I would make a living posting text messages my mom sends me about my vagina. But, here we are. Really happy you’re doing well.
@CrazyJewishMom: Get those internship applications in early! And when you get one, be the first one in at work and the last to leave at night. You’re going to be just fine!
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