“I’m hoping you guys will be honest with me. I’ve been with my boyfriend going on two and a half years now and I honestly see a future with him. The problem is that about 7 months ago we hit a REALLY rough patch. Career and life changes got the better of us and we pushed each other away. During this time he cheated on me. It was a one time thing and he’s made every effort possible to be honest with me and try to make up for what he’s done. I know he loves me and I do love him, but it’s 7 months later and I’m still nowhere near being over it. Should I just end things and move on?” – Taylor
@CrazyJewishMom: First, tell him that if he ever cheats on you again, you will cut his penis off with a meat cleaver and feed it to a pack of starving sharks. Then, if you really love him, go to couples therapy, and see if you can forgive him.
@KateESiegel: This is a tough one. I’ve been cheated on, so I can relate.
@CrazyJewishMom: Oh, here we go with the disgusting bedwetting ex.
@KateESiegel: For me, it was less about the cheating and the sex. At the time, I genuinely believed that my ex was a good person and that we had an honest relationship. So, finding out that he had been lying to my face, really made me question my own judgement.
@CrazyJewishMom: Yeah, I offered to castrate him, but Kate wasn’t into it.
@KateESiegel: I considered it. But Taylor, it sounds like you love him a lot, he’s trying, and you want to make it work, so try! Though I think you have to be brutally honest with yourself: do you actually trust him or do you just really want to? You don’t want to spend the rest of your life suspicious of your partner. It takes time to heal, so it makes sense to still be upset about it seven months later, but you have to figure out if you can ever actually trust him again. If the answer is no, then I think you have to move on.
@CrazyJewishMom: Or invest in a lifetime supply of truth serum. Listen, my spawn is right. If you’re going to spend your life waiting for him to fall asleep so you can read his texts, move on with your bad self. Go to therapy, see if you can make it work. But don’t waste too much time; trust me, there are PLENTY of sperminators in the sea!