He lied about cocaine. Twice.
“Hi! I really need some advice. I have been dating a guy for 6 months. I have told him that drugs are a deal-breaker for me, and that I especially don’t want to be around cocaine, as the drug has destroyed the lives of some of my friends. When we started dating, he told me that he “used to be way into coke.” And now he just “likes coke but doesn’t go overboard.” I told him that it cannot happen with me in his life, and he can chose coke or a life with me. He messed up once, and when I caught him, I told him if he ever does it again that we are done. Tonight, I found drugs in his pants pocket, and I saw cocaine residue on his nostril. I’m totally bummed, and I guess I need to dump him now, because I would be going against my word if I didn’t. Any advice for me would be really appreciated. Thanks.” – Susan
@CrazyJewishMom: My advice? Flush his secret cocaine stash and the entire relationship down the toilet! Give the loser a swirly while you’re at it.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: So, your feelings on recreational drug use aside, this guy has already been caught lying to you twice. That’s not a great sign, and being able to trust your partner is so crucial to a successful relationship.
@CrazyJewishMom: Yeah, and by the way, you shouldn’t dump him just because you want to ‘stay true to your word,’ you should dump him because he’s a lying druggie, and you deserve a million times better. And honey, if he’s lying to you about this six months in, think about the lies he’ll tell you six years in!
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Listen, I have no idea if this guy is an actual drug addict or if he just likes to do coke sometimes, but it doesn’t really matter. He lied to you about something that’s important to you, and then when he messed up and you gave him another chance, he lied again! My mom always told me this when I was growing up, and it’s great advice: “you have to look at what people do, not what they say.” People can say whatever they want, but at the end of the day they do what they want.
@CrazyJewishMom: Yeah, and this loser clearly wants to snort his way up cocaine mountain! And if he IS a drug addict, that is a dangerous road to go down for a billion other reasons. Cut your losses, and GET OUT NOW!
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