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Ask Mom & Spawn: Did my boyfriend’s mom just uninvite me from Christmas?

At first, I was invited to my boyfriend’s family’s Christmas, but then his mom was like “Sike!” What should I do?

“This Christmas, I cannot go home because I am a nurse and have to work. When I mentioned that a few months ago, my boyfriend’s mom seemed willing to include me with their Christmas, saying of course I was welcomed there. Last night she sent me a text message saying she invited her son over early in the morning so they can have a family Christmas, and I am welcome to come over in the evening. This is our second Christmas together. My entire family including my grandma mailed him presents because we couldn’t be at my family’s house for Christmas. And now, I’m not invited to his family’s Christmas. I can’t think of anything I could have done to upset them. My boyfriend hasn’t said anything about it, and I don’t know what to do because I am very hurt right now.” – Larisa

@CrazyJewishMom: Your boyfriend hasn’t said anything? HELLO! You need talk to him about it!

@KateFriedmanSiegel: Yeah, that was my question — does he even know about the text? He might not!

@CrazyJewishMom: Listen, even if your manmeat is on board the exclusion express with his mamma, you have to remember you’re dating him. Not his mother.

@KateFriedmanSiegel: Now hang on a minute, I don’t think this is right — it’s super rude of your boyfriend’s mom, especially in light of how great your family is being and the fact that you’re alone. I really think you’re boyfriend needs to stand up for you!

@CrazyJewishMom: I’m not saying it’s not rude. I’m saying that she’s not dating his mom. She can’t get mad at him for crap his mother is doing. Listen Larisa, if you love this guy, in the scheme of things a catty mother-in-law isn’t the end of the world, and no family is perfect. Talk to your boyfriend about it and see if he will stand up for you, but remember family is weird. For all you know, the mom could be trying to protect you from having to meet a crazy aunt who is visiting Christmas morning, or someone she’s worried will scare you off and into the arms of another sperminator! But even if this woman is just being flat out rude, don’t take out your frustration with her on your boyfriend.

@KateFriedmanSiegel:  He should stand up for you, but I do agree that family can be complicated. I think the most important step is to talk to your boyfriend and be honest about how it’s making you feel.

@CrazyJewishMom: Don’t listen to my Spawn. Never put him in the position of having to choose between his mother and you. It’s ONE holiday morning. Go to Starbucks, and get a peppermint hot chocolate with whipped cream. The mom is a nutty butty, but if you love the guy, hang in there, and when you do finally get invited to Christmas morning with the family, slip some ex-lax in the mom’s cocoa.



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