Brandi wrote in because she got a “lovely” birthday surprise from her husband — he left her and their kids for the landlady! What should she do?
“I have been happily married for almost 9 years with 2 children. Out of the blue last week on my birthday, my husband texted me from work telling me he was seeing somebody and wasn’t coming home. 3 days later I find out he’s been screwing our MARRIED landlord for a month and has now moved in with her. I was initially in shock and heart broken, but now I’m just disgusted and mad. I’ve immediately filed for divorce and am seeking custody of my children due to abandonment, child support, and spousal support. Should I be petty and contact the corporate office of my landlord and tell them that she is now shacked up with my husband who left me financially unable to support my family while they live rent and bill free on the companies dime?” -Brandi
@CrazyJewishMom: Contact them? You should burn her filthy, double home-wrecking apartment complex to the ground. But talk to your Divorce Lawyer first.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Well, happy birthday to you! Wow Brandi, I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. You have absolutely every right to be furious and honestly, I don’t entirely disagree with my mom in this case re the arson. BUT before you do anything rash, you need to think strategically. You don’t want to do something impulsive and vengeful that could impact your ongoing divorce and custody case.
@CrazyJewishMom: Idea: I’ll do it. Brandi, send me the number, I’ll call the office and tell them about the cheating cockroach infestation in their building. Your soon to be ex isn’t even a man. What man abandons his kids, and breaks up with his wife of 9 years, by text, on her birthday? Don’t even waste your heartache on this pile of dog shit. Give me the number for the corporate office, I’ll do the dirty work for you.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Before you unleash the wrath of my mother or anyone else on building management, I’d strongly recommend you speak to your divorce lawyer about exactly what the best move is for you legally. Think about it. Would you rather cause your trash bag of a husband a minor inconvenience in the short term, or get full custody and take every penny he has? Now, I’m not sure the two are mutually exclusive, but if they are, one outcome is definitely better for you and your kids. That said, if the lawyer gives you the green light, by all means, I’ll dial for you.
@CrazyJewishMom: I’m sorry honey. When you’re ready, let me know. I want to fix you up with someone who deserves you.
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