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#WhatTheHellHappened: To the Woman Who Moved across the Country with Her Boyfriend … Who Dumped Her

In this week’s #WhatTheHellHappened, we caught up with Sarah, who agreed to move across the country to be with her boyfriend…but then got dumped two days before the big move. Sarah decided to be the strong, independent woman she is and move anyway, manchild of an ex be damned!  While my mom would’ve liked to slice off the totino’s pizza rolls where his balls are supposed to be, toast them up in my toaster oven, and then shove the charred, factory farmed, dairy riddled remains down his throat,” I tried to be a bit more even handed and suggested she think about the true reasons she wanted to move in the first place.

So, #WhatTheHellHappened? Here’s a refresher on Sarah’s original story, and an update from her below!

“I ran into my childhood sweetheart after years apart. We decided to date. He decided he wanted to move across the country. I was finishing my MBA and had nothing holding me back, so I decided to go as well. Two days before he left, he broke up with me. Trying to be a strong independent woman I decided that I was still going to go, after all we had agreed to remain friends. It’s been almost two months of us being friends (fairly successfully) and last week we got into a large fight causing him to block me on everything and is not speaking. I love it here in this new place, but he made it less lonely and I haven’t established many friends here yet (moved here without a job). At this point I feel like giving up and moving home.” – Sarah L.

So, #WhatTheHellHappened to her?

After writing to you, nothing ever changed between he and I. We have still not spoken. The Christmas following the separation, we were on the same flight home together and about 9 months ago while my dad was visiting, he showed up at the same park we were at with his girlfriend (who I later learned through the grapevine was the main reason he had decided to cut ties). My dad gave him a look and he left. In both situations, neither of us exchanged any words.

Being alone here was really difficult for a while, but I powered through it and built up an amazing friend group in my new home (Seattle). I actually utilized bumble bff A LOT and built from there. I also found a great job in the fall for one of the best companies in the country to work for (benefit wise) and have been there ever since. I have had a few shorter relationship type of things throughout my time here, but I have been in an actual relationship with a guy for 8 months now and could not be happier. I even brought him home to meet my parents & entire (Jewish) family about two weeks ago. It was quite the experience.

Overall, I am really happy that I made the choice to move here and even happier that i chose to stay. I have grown in so many ways, it’s incredible to think about how much has happened in the last two years and how lucky I am.

So happy to hear that, Sarah!

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