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Ask Mom & Spawn: I’m a Queer Man and I Slept with a “Straight” Man … Who is in a Relationship

“Other Wo-man” is a queer man who wrote in because he met this guy on a dating app who he ended up hooking up with … after finding out that the guy was in a serious relationship with a woman. Now, “Other Wo-man” doesn’t know if he should tell her what happened with her boyfriend.

“Hey Mom and Spawn!! So this past week I slept with a guy who I had met on a dating app. We had talked a little bit before meeting up and he said that he was in a serious relationship with a woman (I’m a queer man). This threw me off and I wasn’t sure I wanted to go through with hooking up but, in a moment of weakness, I agreed. Now I can’t get the thought of his, probably sweet and loving, girlfriend out of my head even though I think the cheater is more to blame? Should I try to find her and tell her? I know I deserve the guilt but I don’t know what else to do aside from blocking him!” -Other Wo-Man

@CrazyJewishMom: Well, next time you keep your trouser snake on a leash when you find out the guy is in a relationship.

@KateFriedmanSiegel: I mean, it’s not great that you knowingly slept with someone’s partner, but I firmly believe it’s ultimately the responsibility of the person in a relationship to keep one’s trouser snake or trouser fly trap (?) on a leash in these situations.

@CrazyJewishMom: Oh absolutely! He’s the filthy cheat, not you! Just find someone single next time. Trust me, there are plenty of gorgeous sperminators to have fun with out there.

@KateFriedmanSiegel: So, to your question: I think it makes sense to tell the girlfriend – even if it’s just an email or something. You can’t control how she will react or if she will believe you, but imagine it were you in this situation. Wouldn’t you want a heads up if your partner were cheating? It’s a massive violation of trust, and if this guy is sleeping around while she thinks they’re in a monogamous relationship, he could be exposing her to STDs without even giving her the chance to think about getting tested. Ultimately, if you tell her, it might suck and she might not believe you, but you’ll know that you’ve done everything you can.

@CrazyJewishMom: Tell her and block him. On to the next!

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