For this week’s #WhatTheHellHappened, we caught up with “Confused,” whose boyfriend of 7 years took her ring shopping…but then told her he “feels like they are rushing into marriage.” My mother obviously had some very strong opinions: “This is what you do, you take all of his stuff, fold it, and neatly place it on the sidewalk with a note: ‘sorry I didn’t have enough time to box all this…I was just feeling too rushed.’” Even though I didn’t agree with this plan of action, I did agree that “Confused” needed to give her man an ultimatum, because they were clearly not on the same page.
So, #WhatTheHellHappened? Here’s a refresher on “Confused’s” original story, and an update from her below!
“Hello Mom and Spawn! My boyfriend and I have been together for almost seven years. We recently went to look at engagement rings (yay!) together and kind of get a feel of what I like. He said he was ready to go look and was the one who asked me. However, the other day, he told me he felt like we were rushing things and should slow down. I feel somewhat blindsided and confused. I’m not really sure what to do. Help!” -Confused
So, #WhatTheHellHappened to her?
“Hi Mom and Kate!
Since receiving your advice, things really took a turn for the better. My SO and I officially called it quits. At first, it was hard to come to terms with, but after a few days, I realized how happy I actually was and my friends and family noticed a change in me too. I started to get back out there and didn’t realize how terrible I was actually being treated in my relationship until I started dating again. It took a few different dates, but I finally met a guy who is super sweet, makes time for me, and wants to actually spend time with me. He makes plans when I go to visit him, and he always makes me smile. It’s crazy how I didn’t realize how toxic my previous relationship was. This new guy is just so sweet. He kissed me and then looked at me and said “is this okay? I don’t want to make you feel uncomfortable in any way.” Things are finally starting to look up! So thank you, Mom and Kate, for your advice. I really appreciate it! Also, good luck with wedding planning! I cannot wait to see pictures!
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Oh! I am sorry to hear that it didn’t work out with your ex, but it sounds like it was clearly the right decision for you. I’m so happy that you’re in a better relationship with someone who values you and makes you feel special!!
@CrazyJewishMom: Good for you! Yeah, I’m looking forward to the wedding planning too, if my spawn ever decides to set a damn date.
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