For this week’s #WhatTheHellHappened, we caught up with Laura, whose husband cheated on her and, as if that weren’t enough, also dropped the bombshell that he no longer wanted to have kids. He then moved in with the other woman and shut Laura out completely. This situation is so f**ked up that I almost suggested “keying his car.” Meanwhile my mom was somewhat more sensible, telling Laura to move on, keep the house, and get a lawyer because “this walking STD isn’t worthy of your love.” I couldn’t agree more.
So, #WhatTheHellHappened? Here’s a refresher on Laura’s original story, and an update from her below!
“I’ve been with my husband for 8 years, married for 4 of them. We have a great relationship, built our house together, and planned on starting a family soon. However, our sex life was lacking recently. Two months ago, he shocked me by telling me he cheated on me with an old friend (who is also married and came to our wedding..!!) And threw in that he never wanted to have kids. We have always talked about how we can’t understand why people cheat, so I feel like this came out of left field. He immediately said this wasn’t fixable. He has barely been home, we’ve barely talked, and he continues to be with this other woman (even moving in with her). I have no idea what to do, but I still want my best friend back. How can I put an end to their sexcapades?” – Laura
So, #WhatTheHellHappened to her?
“Thanks for checking in! Well, things haven’t changed much since my first write in. My husband is still living with this other woman and not talking to me. He won’t answer any of my questions, so I decided to just focus on myself for awhile and spend time with my friends and family, see a therapist, etc. I have contacted a lawyer, but I’m not ready to pull the trigger on it. This isn’t anything I ever could’ve imagined happening to me, and I am having a really hard time accepting that this is it. I agree that it would be very hard to get back together with him, but whenever I bring up divorce to him or what to do with the house, he won’t speak about it. He’s come home a few times, cried to me, said he’s losing out, but “it’s complicated” in his words. He also texted me for the first time in a month on Valentine’s Day just to chat. It’s like he’s living in an alternate world. I feel like I’m part of some kind of psychological experiment but I am so scared and sad to make such a big change in my life. Anyway, maybe we need a follow up to my follow up, lol. That wasn’t short by any means, but thanks for checking in. I love your columns each week and loved your book.” – Laura
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Oh Laura! I’m so incredibly sorry to hear that you’re still struggling in this painful situation. This guy doesn’t deserve you, and I’m glad to hear that you’re focusing on yourself as much as you can. Down the road, we’d love to check in again and hear how things are going. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, and I really hope this all works out in one way or another AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. You really don’t deserve this torture, and I’m so sorry. Please be in touch, and I’m really glad to hear you’re working through this in therapy. That can be so helpful.
@CrazyJewishMom: Change the locks and block his phone number.
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