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#WhatTheHellHappened: To The Woman Who Couldn’t Help But Think “What If?” About Her Ex

In this week’s #WhatTheHellHappened, we caught up with “Torn,” who wrote in originally because even though she was happy with her boyfriend, she couldn’t help but think “what if?” when it came to her ex. My mother obviously had some strong opinions: “Listen to me, your ex should be castrated and put out to pasture. You know where he should not be? In your thoughts for even one goddamn second.” I might not have been as dramatic, but I agreed that she needed to move on and enjoy the boyfriend who was good to her — not the ex who cheated on her.

So, #WhatTheHellHappened? Here’s a refresher on Torn’s original story, and an update from her below!

“Hi Mom and Spawn! Backstory: I was with my ex for close to 10 years with no commitment in sight even after we had a child and a dog together. After he had been unfaithful, I left him and took our child and dog with me. Now, a year later, I found a fantastic man who loves me and treats me like a queen and has a 2 year plan of being engaged and moved in together and the whole 9 yards. My child adores him and he would be the perfect choice. But I find myself still thinking about my ex, and wishing to have fixed things with him, wishing him to be more like my boyfriend now. I want to be happy with the right man, but the memories won’t let me. Please help me before I go crazy!” – Torn

So, #WhatTheHellHappened to her?

“After my column published and everyone’s advice I decided to stay on the wagon and move on from my ex! But not all roads lead to happiness unfortunately. My child had to undergo planned surgery that would leave her impaired for a couple days and I told my boyfriend that I would be distant and distracted caring for my girl. I communicated with him as much as possible, but he started acting like a child saying I wasn’t giving him enough attention and that I was flirting with my child’s father who was in town for the surgery, which wasn’t true. Him and I actually had a talk about how happy we are with our new significant others! I reassured him that there was nothing between him and me and we were doing our best to be the supportive loving parents our child deserved. After a couple days my boyfriend text me saying he didn’t want to play “second fiddle to some dude” and he thought we should go our separate ways. I love him but I love my child way way way way more than some dude. So good riddance.” – No Longer Torn

@KateFriedmanSiegel:  I’m so sorry to hear your child had to go through that! And how awful that your boyfriend wasn’t I’m so sorry to hear your child had to go through that! And how awful that your boyfriend wasn’t understanding in that moment – so selfish. Jealousy is understandable to some small extent in any relationship, but for him to vocalize that at all, let alone at a moment that made situation about his partner’s sick child about him is at best insanely immature and probably worse. You definitely have your priorities in order, and it’s so good that you were able to see his true colors before you got too far along with him.understanding in that moment – so selfish. Jealousy is understandable to some small extent in any relationship, but for him to vocalize that at all, let alone at a moment that made situation about his partner’s sick child about him is at best insanely immature and probably worse. You definitely have your priorities in order, and it’s so good that you were able to see his true colors before you got too far along with him.

@CrazyJewishMom:  Bye bye child boyfriend! On to bigger and better things.

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