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#WhatTheHellHappened: To The Woman Who Didn’t Know If She Should Choose Her Promotion or Her BF

For this week’s #WhatTheHellHappened, we caught up with Anonymous who wrote in because she felt conflicted about her career and her boyfriend. Her boyfriend matched with a residency in Boston, while she was about to receive a promotion in Philadelphia. Now, her boyfriend is super supportive, but Anonymous was still worried about what that meant for their relationship. My mom said, of course: JOB FIRST, PENIS SECOND. I agreed, saying “Imagine you move to Boston, start over in a mediocre job, and then you guys break up?” That happened to me with my “bed-wetting” ex and it’s definitely NOT worth it.

So, #WhatTheHellHappened? Here’s a refresher on Anonymous’ original story, and an update from her below!

“Hi Mom and Spawn, I’m writing because I’m really conflicted. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 3 years and I love him very much. We’ve been living together for the past year and it’s been going great. My boyfriend just matched for his residency in Boston, and we currently live in Philadelphia. Two weeks ago I informed my boss that I might be leaving to move with my boyfriend once he matches for residency. Two days ago my boss indicated that he would like to try to recruit me for a promotion. This promotion would be an incredible opportunity and allow me a lot more financial flexibility. If I do in fact get this promotion it would make it almost impossible to find an as competitive offer in Boston. My boyfriend fully supports me in taking this promotion, but I’m worried about what that would mean for our relationship. On the one hand I want to go to a new city and start to build a new life there, but I’m scared that that might mean taking a less competitive employment option. I really don’t know if I should stay in Philly or follow my boyfriend to Boston and start building a new career there.” – Anonymous

So, #WhatTheHellHappened to her?

Things are going really well. I took my promotion and got myself a new apartment in Philly. My boyfriend moves to Boston in a few days. We’ve been focusing on enjoying the time we have together before the big transition. We just got back from a wonderful two week vacation. The promotion is going to allow me more flexibility so I’ll be able to visit a lot. Our plan is that I’ll take my time looking for work in Boston, until I’m able to find something that I’m excited about. All in all we’re very happy with the decision we made and we’re looking forward to our next chapter.

It was great to get advice from your column and I really enjoyed the comments from your readers. Thanks for everything!

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