In this week’s #WhatTheHellHappened, we caught up with Anonymous, who originally wrote in because her fiancé wanted to get a prenup — and it made her feel uneasy. My mom definitely had some opinions: “Oh, grow up! This is no big deal. You’re making this more dramatic than it is. Prenups are great!” Meanwhile, I realized that this might have felt like a “slap in the face” to her, but that she should try to see it from his perspective: “He probably saw some really ugly things when his parents split up, and that is likely a big motivator for this prenup.” My mom and I agreed that she could make sure that this prenup protects BOTH of them in case things end badly.
So, #WhatTheHellHappened? Here’s a refresher on Anonymous’ original story, and an update from her below!
“Hi! Thanks for reading this. I am a huge fan and am dying to get your advice on this touchy situation. My fiancé is a wonderful guy! He adores me and always makes me a priority. We have been together for over 5 years and we are 24 years old. He is of course, human, and flawed – but his heart and loyalty is tremendous. He told me before we got engaged that he would need a prenup to protect his pension. He comes from a broken family and has a good job. It doesn’t sit well with me, but I love him and we are working it out to remain fair despite his protection of pension. He was also very honest about the subject before we got engaged. This is also not a good look for him, and he is losing respect in the eyes of my family – which is so important to me! What do you both think? How should I handle this situation and the heartbreak of my family not appreciating my soon-to-be husband? Is love worth making this big compromise? Thanks Mom and Spawn!’ -Anonymous
So, #WhatTheHellHappened to her?
Hi Mom and Spawn! Thank you for all of your wonderful advice on my prenup question. I initiated the process of fiancé and I sitting with a lawyer who explained how everything would work. Ultimately, fiancé could see how committed I was towards our relationship and doing everything I could to marry him. Immediately after the appointment, he told me that he was sorry for projecting his broken family dynamics onto our relationship and that it was my decision if we should get a prenup. Although I understand the pros of having one, I chose not to have a prenup. I also appreciate your advice on being confident with my decisions and not leaning on my parents’ opinions to form my own thoughts and feelings. Hoping this will help some future fiancés 🙂 Thank you for everything!
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