Anonymous wrote in because her husband of more than 20 years kissed his co-worker … twice. He ended up telling her and now she doesn’t know what to do. They have two kids together and a lifetime of memories. What should she do?
“We’ve been married for more than 20 years. He just told me that a couple of months ago a coworker kissed him, and then a second time they did. He felt so guilty, he ended telling me. He said that was all. He doesn’t feel anything for her and he regrets it very much. But he still has to work with her. I don’t know what to do. We have 2 kids and a lifetime together.” – Anonymous
@KimFriedmanNYC: You stab him in the testicles with a rusty nail, and tell him next time he doesn’t get to keep them.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: Nope! Don’t do that, but I am so sorry you’re going through this. What an awful position he’s put you in.
@KimFriedmanNYC: You have kids, so you have to think about what’s right for them.
@KateFriedmanSiegel: This is so tough, because even though he didn’t have sex, he still violated your trust both emotionally and physically. So, don’t let anyone make you feel like it’s not a big deal. At the same time, I think you should also take into consideration that he confessed to you and from what he described it is fairly limited. I think ultimately, as with any violation of trust, it comes down to two things. One, do you want to move forward? Two, will YOU be able to move forward and genuinely trust him again?
@KimFriedmanNYC: You must go to couples counseling with him if you want to try and make it work. And people get new jobs! If it’s too hard for you knowing they are working together, tell him to work on his damn resume and start applying for jobs!
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