For this week’s #WhatTheHellHappened, we caught up with Cherita, who originally wrote in because her long-distance boyfriend was dragging his feet over moving in with her … and it had been four years since he said he would. She wanted to know if we thought she should have faith in him or move on. To that, my mom said: “Faith is for religion, not men. Get the hell out of there!” I noted that the situation could be a bit more complicated than we understood, but I still felt that Cherita should give him a hard deadline to help her see if he would change his mind.
So, #WhatTheHellHappened? Here’s a refresher on Cherita’s original story, and an update from her below!
“My boyfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for 4 years. After being together for about 6-7 months, he told me he loved me and he wants to marry me. He told me that he that he wanted to move to my hometown with his 2 teenage daughters. Every time we set a date for him to move something comes up and he doesn’t move. Now it is 4 years later and he says that he is moving next month. I absolutely love him, but I got a feeling that he still won’t move. Do you think he has commitment issues? Should I have faith that he will eventually move or just leave the relationship?” -Cherita
So, #WhatTheHellHappened to her?
“I did take your advice. I talked to him and told him that 4 years has been long enough. I reminded him that it was his idea to move and I didn’t put him up to it. If he truly felt the way he said he did, he should show me. I gave him until my birthday (which is in February) to move and he didn’t. So ultimately as much as it hurt, I broke up with him.” – Cherita
@KimFriedmanNYC: On to bigger and better man meat!
@KateFriedmanSiegel: I’m so sorry it didn’t work out, but it sounds like he wasn’t going to change his mind and wasn’t ready to move forward with you. You deserve someone who is on the same page as you and values you more than this guy did.
@KimFriedmanNYC: This loser already wasted enough of your time. Time to get back out there and find the love you deserve, like my spawn said. Time is the most valuable thing you have, so good riddance! On to the next!
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